Frustration is a common emotion we all go through. We may feel upset or annoyed from not being able to change or achieve something. We get frustrated when we place great hopes in a desired outcome but things did not go our way.
It plays out in many different ways – our laptop crashed just when we needed it for a vital meeting presentation; we had a hard day and just when we were about to rest, we received an emergency phone call. Or perhaps we were recently retrenched and are struggling to find a new job.
It is no wonder that we find ways to relieve our negative pent-up emotions by doing something enjoyable. During this circuit breaker season, our social media feeds have been displaying countless food pictures posted by our friends. We find comfort in eating a good meal, drinking a nice cup of bubble tea, watching comedies, listening to music or enjoying conversations with someone special.
While the above give us some reprieve, it does not resolve a deeper inner issue. For me, when I am frustrated, I tend to eat more snacks. I feel good for that moment, but I know it is not the real solution to the weary soul. Our hearts require a different pathway to healing. And while we know “what feeds the stomach does not feed the soul”, we tend to continue comforting our physical body instead of our spirit man.
God tells us in Isaiah 41:10 that His presence and persevering strength is the key that will truly sustain us. Unresolved frustrations can lead us down the rapid falls to fear and dismay. That is why the Lord commands His people to focus on Him. Our greatest place of wholeness is found in the person of Christ.
So, what should we do when we are frustrated?
Firstly, we need to acknowledge it. Denying the problem is not helpful and it can lead to a much larger psychological issue due to suppression.
Next, we need to tell God about the frustrations we have. King David models this for us well. He constantly shares his pain and agonies in his psalms. An example is found in Psalm 69:20, “Reproaches have broken my heart, so that I am in despair. I looked for pity, but there was none, and for comforters, but I found none.”
Finally, the most important thing we need to do is to trust God through the frustrations and exalt Him continually. As David mentioned in Psalm 69:29, “But I am afflicted and in pain; let your salvation, O God, set me on high!” May we turn all our frustrations to Him who is able to keep us in faith!-